If we follow your (understandable) thought all the way through, the demand is all women must be safe all the time or all men are culpable. I'm infuriated you were in that situation, I'm infuriated those men saw fit to treat you that way - and as you say, even though you ended up 'okay', you really didn't in terms of emotional fallout and feeling of safety within yourself. This IS inexusable, I agree. But the logic that women can't be sure, so all men are therefore a legitimate threat is as insane as saying until Islamic Jihad and terror attacks cease to be a thing, all Muslims are culpable.